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buttons · Posted: Wed Oct 21, 2009 2:46 pm Post subject: Advice - D/s between friends

Hello everyone. I am looking for some advice...

My friend and I recently decided to be "playmates" on a strictly casual basis. He has had a little bit of experience with D/s before, I have had none. My question is, what differences are there in the dynamics of a D/s relationship between two people who are just friends, as opposed to two people in a committed relationship?

We have had one session so far, we both enjoyed it immensely, and I feel that we have a very good connection. I felt such a strong desire to please him, and to have his approval, and I am concerned now that as we continue this desire may bleed into our vanilla life and friendship, and that I may start having deeper feelings for him.

Has anyone has any experience with this sort of situation? I am so new to all of this, and I would appreciate any insight that any of you have. Thank you.

sissykatye · Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 7:27 am Post subject: hard

yes you broch some instring thing's yess it is hard to serapeate the 2 as you both delavge deaper into the life style. but it will depend on the 2 of you how thing's progress. bondrys need to be set between sub and vilner mode. some find a coller good for this coller on your a sub coller off your not..i know it's easey side then done but comunation is the key talk a lot befor and afther sessions. the best people to juge where or not this is going astray is the two of you

lordstanley · Posted: Wed Jan 20, 2010 1:41 pm Post subject: Can anyone help me here !!

Hi i have just discovered that my wife started this with a male sub 7 months ago. The deceit has hurt me very much. They did not have actual sex but another type of sex which she now admits was fantastic. He has fallen in love with my wife and she says she has strong feelings for him and wants to end our 14 year relationship. I am quite a dominant businessman and would like to discover if there is a place for me in this scene. Hopefully I can stay with my wife who I love and dont mind if she meets this submissive man from time to time

l8nightq · Posted: Tue Feb 09, 2010 7:40 pm Post subject:

You have already started to move away from vanilla. There are limits you can set, but the physical rules of humans sex and spirituality apply. The general rule is that if you touch a man sexually you touch him sexually, but if you touch a woman sexually you touch her spiritually.
Now that you have already started to move you need to see where this is going because it may still be just fun to him.
Remember - you can't control who and what you are attracted to , but you can control what you do about it.
If you are about to damage another relationship that you or he care about, you need to stop and talk about where this is taking you.
I've been there, done that.

Good luck

MasterChrizz · Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 4:22 pm Post subject:

Button, you can start the new step of bdsm lifestyle. You can become his permanent slave, not just play partner